time with your daughter

Four Step Plan for Time with your Daughter

shelley noonan B'twixt and B'tween Blog, Blog Posts, Mentoring, Mother Daughter Bible Study, Mother Daughter Time, Mother Tween Daughter Relationship

Hey there Mama, I am talking to you… you are the one with a ‘tweenage daughter who is transforming before your very eyes. 

This New Years, have you taken a long, hard look at your life and wish you could have a better relationship with your daughter than you did last year?

Do you look back on the past year and realize how quickly the time is slipping away and she is growing into a young woman before your very eyes?


C.S. Lewis said, “There are far better things ahead than we leave behind.”

In this season of new beginnings pause, breathe, and take time to plan a purposeful a one-on-one mentoring time with your daughter each week.

YIKES!I can almost hear some of you asking me, and some of you are not using your indoor voices, “HOW do I find enough time in the day to mentor my daughter? I barely have enough time the way it is!”

Making time for a relationship with your girl is all about priorities. 

We make time to do the things we want to do and are essential to us. Did you know the average lifespan is 25,550 days? We are each given more or less 612,000 hours or 36,720,000 minutes in which to live our lives. Another way to put it is that time is a currency that we choose to spend the way we want. We all have the same amount of time, but the key is how we make use or allocate the time.

How do you start?

  1. Pray. Start the journey with prayer. Ask the LORD if spending more one-on-one time is something He wants you to do.
  2. Time. If the answer is yes, look at your calendar and choose a day and time weekly that you can start sharing with your daughter. Maybe it will just be 15 minutes, and maybe you can afford 30 minutes, or perhaps even an hour. Whatever the amount, mark the day and the time down on the calendar. Post it on the fridge for all to see! It will keep you accountable. By choosing and setting aside a specific time, your goal is clearly marked and more accessible. “Then the Lord replied: “Write down the revelation and make it plain on tablets so that a herald may run with it” Habakkuk 2:2
  1.  Ask. Begin your time with your daughter in prayer. Discuss your goals. Do you want a closer relationship? Do you wish to create a lifelong memory? Does she want you to learn a specific skill? Ask God to guide you each time you meet. “Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths. Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.” Psalms 25:4-5.
  2. Expect. Girl, you can expect God to do amazing things in your relationship with your daughter! “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen!”  Ephesians 3:20-21

Allow me to sum up my four-step plan on spending more time with your daughter:

Plan. A. Time.

Proverbs 14:22b states, “Those who plan what is good find love and faithfulness.”

The next step after planning a TIME is planning WHAT TO STUDY.  Join me next time as I share some solutions with you! In the meantime, for more information on Mother/Daughter Bible studies go here if you have girls ages 9-14 or here if your daughter is 13-18!